There are things that surprise us, living breathing human beings. As we are thinkers, the ones with large brains and the constant urge to find logical reasoning and understanding behind all of what life pushes our way; unfortunately to our desired state of comfort and know-it-all-ness, there are things that escape our constant grasp for answers. These are the things that seep through our fingers, they are what I’d like to call, life’s 10 surprises.
You grow up thinking “I will understand”.
I will understand what this life means,
I will get it, when I’m older, I will know.
I don’t know if this thought had ever crossed your busy mind, but when I was young(er), it was difficult for me to imagine that the adults in my life ever had a childhood, or were ever young and experimenting, and faced trial and many errors, as the adults in my life had usually always set a very square, well-cut example for me to follow.
Were they ever really young? My 7 year old self thought to herself (yes, self reflection is very important, it’s never too early to start).
Did they ever have hands as small as mine? Maybe..
As dirty as mine? … probably not.
And I’ll let you in on the first surprise of the 10:
1. At some point you realize that nearly all of the adults in your life were young once, and time is the only factor separating you from being them.
I used to think that many of the grown-ups in my life were flawless, but it turns out that they too, were rebels, and they did not have it together at some point, and what they show now is the result of years of practice.
You think you understand how the world works until it starts showing you surprises, and starts unveiling a cloak that seemed to always be up, as a child.
There is no telling where you will end up, and who you will meet, and that’s about the greatest gift you will get, along with other less pleasing surprises.
Here are some key little things that I have learned so far, if you’d like some free insight. Let me reveal to you the surprises the cloak has been hiding (for me, at-least)
2. Surprises are both good and not so good, and your reaction to both will dictate your general state of being. Your homeostatis if you will.
3. Do not fear change. You will not only change your environment, your work, your friends, but you will also feel yourself changing. Surprise: at some point, you will crave change.
4. Keep your family close, their kind of love is difficult to find. Surprise: not everyone has pure intentions, no one will ever love you quite the same way your birthgivers do.
5. Do the things you want to do, even if you’re afraid of them/of what people will think. You’ve probably read this in a relatable post, but do it (unless it is harmful for you and others, if that’s the case, then don’t.) Surprise: there are countless things to be afraid of, but nothing is scarier than fear. Learn how to manage it and you will be free.
6. Give as much as you can, with no expectation in return, this is a free source of happiness. Be helpful to others, be kind and serve when needed, there is no shame in that. Complement when you see something good, when you see a spark in a person, let them know about it. Surprise: giving may feel better than receiving!
7. Mental health is as important as physical health. Take care of you, concentrate on yourself and self-reflect constantly. Enjoy being able to have free time to yourself before this time is taken away by other responsibilities and people and children and all of life’s ruckus. Surprise: we are much more complicated than we’d like to admit. Surprise 2.0: most human beings are just as complicated, and may be going through a similar mental struggle. We are not alone, we just think we are.
8. The love you know now may surprise you down the line. You may see love as something specific at some point in your life, but this may change, and that is okay. You may learn that love comes in different mediums, and is expressed differently depending on the people you know, and the depth of love itself. Surprise: of all the real, tangible things in your life, love is the most real, genuine thing you can experience.
9. Be open minded, do not close off people or experiences just because you are convinced that you normally would not do them. Surprise: people, themselves.
10. (Yes that makes 11, surprise!) Life can be mundane sometimes. Repetitive, boring in its monotony, quiet, loud, uncomfortable, difficult to deal with, stress inducing, tiring, but life is also all of these opposites. It is not summed up in one day, or in one sentence, or in 10 surprises. Life leaves you with no words to express, it leaves you with feelings you cannot write on paper. It leaves you with images and song, and dance, and touch, and a lot of laughter, and a lot of sadness. It is both at the same time. It is loss and gain, of people and experiences and time. We are all going to leave at some point, many of the people we know have left us already, so it’s good to remember that surprises, whether good or bad, happen, and the biggest surprise of them all is life, itself.